Hearts and Smileys :)
Friday, December 09, 2011
No relationship is problem-proof or pain-free and doesn’t come in boxes labeled with no-tears formula or happiness guaranteed or lifetime warranty. (Imagine how life would be so much wonderful and perfect with that.Sweet.) The formula for the perfect scratch-proof relationship hasn’t been invented yet (even fairy tales have tragedies too) but I found these simple things might help promote love and happy relationship.
Do’s
Love. It’s a no-brainer. As the cliché goes, love yourself first so you can love others. Be happy with your own self first and plant positive things and words in your system; so when the rough roads come, you’ll have tools to smoothen the ride.
Spend some me-time. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself in love. You can’t fully give yourself to someone as that would only end into a self-destructive drama. Enjoy your solitude. Remember that when you enter into a relationship, you have to be complete as you are, and if things turn to worst, you can get away complete as well.
Be yourself. Never attempt to pretend in any phase of the relationship. Wear always your best self, but please have a reality check of your attitude, you might want to fix some problem. Put in mind that being true to yourself doesn’t mean you can just do whatever you wish, or being such a jerk or brat. Yes, it comes cute and challenging at first but turns out really hard to handle as time goes by. People just don’t have that much tolerance.
Stay happy. Choose your love and love your choice, that’s what we’ve been told. And with love, we can always choose to stay happy with our loved ones, especially in a relationship. It’s not all the time that you have to share your work drama or your family problem or your grievances about the ill government; spend more happy times and happy thoughts together. Learn something new, share an excellent award and celebrate victories and milestones together. You just have to collect more happy memories together so you can smile and give more love.
Apologize. Admit your wrong and don’t point fingers with each other and play a blaming game all the time. Say sorry only when you mean it, or, accept an apology wholeheartedly. If you just feel too bad about a word, an act or a reaction to a situation, don’t pretend that it’s okay and you’ll forget. Yes, it’s easier to forgive and forget but forgive sincerely.
Be honest. The truth shall set you free. Do not keep any secrets especially those you think might become an issue. Don’t make fool out of your partner by allowing him/her to know the truth from somebody else. Tell the truth all the times, white lies are still lies; so no excuses allowed in here. Honesty is also the basic component of trust in the relationship. And since trust has been dubbed as the foundation of a relationship, be honest, stay true, be a trustworthy person completely.
Don’ts
Be selfish. A relationship is about people staying together because of a common interest, idea, feeling, etc. feeding your own ego is very unnecessary. Be sensitive of your partner’s needs and stop being very demanding. Don’t expect someone else to adjust to you and for you.
Break promises. People say promises are meant to be broken, but promises could be worked on, really. Promises can come true; you just have to be patient, hopeful and realistic. Don’t demand for impossibilities; and be always firm with giving out your yes or your no. Just don’t make any promises particularly when you’re happy. A broken promise is just a very heart breaking scene.
Cheat. This is a very basic command since preschool, don’t cheat. Stay loyal to your partner, or if you just can’t do it break up with him/her and go look for a new partner. You just can’t have everyone; you just can’t fool anyone because you’re not that great. And that’s the truth.
For never is a greater feeling than to love and be loved. Keep your heart beat.
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