When My Tummy Aches

Monday, December 05, 2011


(Originally Posted: Jodivie Malnegro's Notes, February 8, 2010)

LIFE IS A MATTER OF CHOICE. We may not seem to notice it but even by the moment we wake up, we have to decide for the things we have to do after a minute, after an hour, plans for the weekend or finish the undone responsibilities. And when it all comes to worst; we have to choose between two most important things in life --- WHAT WE WANT and WHERE WE SHOULD BE.

Our parents have carefully chosen the path we need to take, they say for our own good. They have PREFABRICATED us to become the GOOD CHILD. Of course we can't decide on our own back then, we needed them to feed us, clothe us, shelter us and provide us with the basic need of LOVE and TO BE LOVED.
But then they decided to choose our friends --- first, we had to be friends with their friends' children. Then, they started to choose the clothes we wore. They never bothered to ask us if we really wanted to wear that pink dress when what we really loved was that yellow one. Then they inculcated in our minds the ways of the world --- they told us how we should behave and stopped us from exploring things. They sent us to these schools and forced us to take the courses we never imagined ourselves to be into, just so we can do for them what they failed to do during their time.


This is not a note to whine and babble about anything or belittle the very purpose of our parent's existence. They have to do those things for us. Had it not been for them, who would we become??? They had to choose for us. But most of them failed to give us the most precious gift a child could have. The GIFT OF CHOICE. Yes, it could be love, or strength, or money or care or our last name or even freedom.


One song goes, LIFE IS A MAZE. Just like that, one wrong move and we could get lost forever. Life has never been a trial-and-error saga. Our little steps could make or break us. Yes, we're not perfect and we could never be close to that but having to deal with the same situation over and over again could be stupidity or plain martyrdom

We had been SLAVES OF OUR INNATE GOODNESS. The desire to please other people have caused us our own happiness. We have made them all proud when we cry like babies, thinking we could have done things our way. Things have never worked as planned. Because everyday, every single moment of our daily life, we had to take chances, NO. We have to MAKE A DECISION. Yes, the damage is done and could not be undone and Regrets have always been with us from the start. But, we can choose not to regret any more thing in our lives. 

We could decide now or maybe later. Because only I can live MY life and ONLY YOU CAN LIVE YOUR LIFE. I'm not saying that we don't need other people in our lives and take for granted what they have to say--- we're just human. We need our parents, our friends, our mentors to be there with us. But we must never forget our own selves. Our own lives. Our individuality. And answering a close ended question is not impossible. It's just difficult but we can choose to answer YES-or-NO. RIGHT NOW AND JUST DEAL WITH WHAT COMES IN BETWEEN OR BEYOND THE EXTREMES. ^_^

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I'm awksome & adorkable, my cute way of justifying my clumsiness. Born in PH 1989, last wave of people born in the 80's. Never stop learning. I'm a licensed nurse who currently studies law. I'd probably learn pastry making soon but maybe calligraphy lessons sooner. Normal is boring. Most of the people close to me prolly think I'm weird. I dunno. Love is my religion, I'm a low-key agnostic. Jed's greatest fan or biggest headache. hihi




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