When Sorry Isn't Good Enough
Friday, December 09, 2011
When sorry isn’t enough, what do you do?
We are just humans (or are you? haha) and not perfect human beings at that. It is quite normal for us to commit mistakes sometimes and hurt people, even those we love. Most of the time we don’t choose the right words to convey our message, while often times we just have the inappropriate tone of voice. We are so secure with our tight bonds with other people that we make assumptions that there’s nothing we can do to them that isn’t forgivable. Hardly do we realize out of anger, that our loved ones’ hearts and egos have been crushed by our own incontrollable throw of tantrums. And being self-centered in nature, we don’t realize the resulting damages to others, we think we are always right and that that their acts of avoidance from us are just results of their over reaction to the situation.
It would take us a few hours to determine that we did something wrong but our ego dictates us to avoid fixing the issue, and we’re not the bully. It would take a few more hours to realize that things have changed and that they’re just not talking to us anymore, or they may talk but not as lovely and lively as they used to be. Few more hours to spare and we will soon realize that the easy-going atmosphere is gone and there are things to be done and undone; and we can’t go on with it anymore avoiding the issue.
Later, we try to apologize and compose the best sorry-statements ever. However, most of us fail at these because we tend to rationalize. We say things like “I’m sorry but you took it the wrong way.” We are sorry but we are not taking the blame. We apologize but we put the blame to the aggrieved party. The nerve of us to even apologize in the first place , yet we are only concerned about washing our hands clean but not really taking in and thinking of what wrong thing we did. And when our unwanted behavior has been going on for too long and has been tolerated lots of times by our loved ones, we are sure that we can just go about with it again, and shake it off like a grain of salt; and they have no right to give violent reactions or feel bad at all.
We just can’t be such brat all the time. We have to control ourselves, best believe our emotions. We can’t always be on high. We have to be composed and whoever said we have freedom of expression and we can do and say as we wish, never thought of the people that might get affected. Our right ends when somebody else’s right begin. To relate we could say the least that the world is not about us and feeding our egos all the time.
It’s about learning to take the blame and apologizing from the heart.
The song is true and sorry is the hardest word to utter. For apology takes more than just saying sorry. When sorry isn’t enough, what do you do? I asked myself, no one answered me in facebook, maybe because they don’t didn’t know too, what else to do. But tonight, my sleepy head told me that maybe tomorrow could give the answer.
We just have to wait for our apologies to be accepted, because we just can’t keep pushing. and when our request be granted, let’s commit to avoiding hurting our loved ones again and try really hard to correct our bad behavior so we’ll live in love, peace and happiness.
It’s about learning to take the blame and apologizing from the heart.
The song is true and sorry is the hardest word to utter. For apology takes more than just saying sorry. When sorry isn’t enough, what do you do? I asked myself, no one answered me in facebook, maybe because they don’t didn’t know too, what else to do. But tonight, my sleepy head told me that maybe tomorrow could give the answer.
We just have to wait for our apologies to be accepted, because we just can’t keep pushing. and when our request be granted, let’s commit to avoiding hurting our loved ones again and try really hard to correct our bad behavior so we’ll live in love, peace and happiness.
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