No relationship is problem-proof or pain-free and doesn’t come in boxes labeled with no-tears formula or happiness guaranteed or lifetime warranty. (Imagine how life would be so much wonderful and perfect with that.Sweet.) The formula for the perfect scratch-proof relationship hasn’t been invented yet (even fairy tales have tragedies too) but I found these simple things might help promote love and happy relationship.
Stay happy in love.
Here are a few things we can say and do to the people we love.
1. Say I love you only when you mean to say it; and when you do mean to say, tell them you love them, people forget.
2. Appreciate every good thing they’ve done for you; even the smallest things (whether they cooked your fave dish, got you a new pet, colored your nails, or gave you free movie passes). Say thank you.
When sorry isn’t enough, what do you do?
We are just humans (or are you? haha) and not perfect human beings at that. It is quite normal for us to commit mistakes sometimes and hurt people, even those we love. Most of the time we don’t choose the right words to convey our message, while often times we just have the inappropriate tone of voice. We are so secure with our tight bonds with other people that we make assumptions that there’s nothing we can do to them that isn’t forgivable. Hardly do we realize out of anger, that our loved ones’ hearts and egos have been crushed by our own incontrollable throw of tantrums. And being self-centered in nature, we don’t realize the resulting damages to others, we think we are always right and that that their acts of avoidance from us are just results of their over reaction to the situation.
(Originally Posted: Jodivie Malnegro's Notes, February 8, 2010)
LIFE IS A MATTER OF CHOICE. We may not seem to notice it but even by the moment we wake up, we have to decide for the things we have to do after a minute, after an hour, plans for the weekend or finish the undone responsibilities. And when it all comes to worst; we have to choose between two most important things in life --- WHAT WE WANT and WHERE WE SHOULD BE.
Our parents have carefully chosen the path we need to take, they say for our own good. They have PREFABRICATED us to become the GOOD CHILD. Of course we can't decide on our own back then, we needed them to feed us, clothe us, shelter us and provide us with the basic need of LOVE and TO BE LOVED.
(Originally Posted: June 14, 2010 Jodivie Malnegro's Notes)
So this was the path I chose to take.
Traffic jam too heavy - everyone trying to get ahead. Cars chasing, trying to beat the red lights.
I should have known how to get through this mess. I should have followed the friendly signs. I should have taken the detour.
And yet I'm here, stuck in traffic, where everyone is.
Suffocated by the indecisions, wallowing in wrong turns. i thought I could just get through with this. Wishful thinking much, my ticket to success is in everybody's hands. I have nothing just for me. Everyone has a license, everyone can drive his/her way out.
(Originally posted: Freedom wall, July 19, 2009)
If there would have been the worst of all stupid people, that would have been someone called stupid-est and I almost went like one, unfortunately. I hate it when people belittle my capabilities, so to say, underestimate, let's say my level of understanding, mocking my very ideals, the foundation of how I live my life with the purest of my beliefs and principles. I’d take it one of those rare moments that I looked too dumb for show, hilarious shall I say with all the language barriers.
(Originally posted:Freedom Wall, March 4, 2009)
Bang!
A gunshot
Gush of blood from ten meters away
A friend has been hit
He did not look back
He ran faster
A great escape from a would-be ending
Heart pounding like drumroll
Rhythm too much audible it hurts
Could hardly breathe
Could hardly move
He may be next
For the first time in his entire life
He is scared